Monday, September 2, 2013

Try, Try, and Try Again

Diane Nyad accomplished her dream today.  After four unsuccessful attempts to swim from Cuba to Florida, she tried one last time, and made it.  Here are her words:

"I am willing to put myself through anything, temporary pain or   discomfort means nothing to me as long as I can see that the experience will take me to a new level. I am interested in the unknown, and the only path to the unknown is through breaking barriers, an often painful process." 





I can relate to chasing a dream, and not succeeding the first time. After going to graduate school, working 3,000 hours as an intern, I failed the oral exam for Marriage & Family Therapy licensure for the state of California.  Feeling a bit cocky after passing the written exam, I did not go into the oral prepared enough.  After receiving my rejection letter and sobbing, I decided it was time for a makeover mentally, emotionally, and even physically.  I found new coaches and practiced vignette after vignette for months.  I bought a suit and decided to wear my hair pulled back in order to look more professional.  Alas, I went back to the site of my first failure and proceeded to try again.  Even though I sounded like a sheep when I said my name, "Naaaaannnnnnccy Peeeeeveeeeey" into a tape recorder, I could hear (in my mind) my coaches saying, "Get it together, Nancy."  At least six weeks later, the letter arrived again with good news that I had passed.  No, I didn't have to take the oral five times, but it still took everything inside to try again.  It was such a blessing to succeed, because the state decided to not administer the oral exam again.  

Knowing for years that I had to face that oral exam filled me with fear. I was able to keep that fear in the back of my mind as long as I kept moving toward the goal.  Once it was time to meet that fear head on, I was filled with anxiety.  Voices in my head said, "What if you don't pass?  You will feel like such a failure," and those negative voices chatted on. In my second attempt, I had to work hard to quiet those voices, and instead used the mantra, "Get it together, Nancy.  You can do this."  I would imagine Diana Nyad had to battle lots of voices of condemnation after those four other attempts to swim from Cuba to Florida. Her test was not only mental endurance, but one of tremendous physical endurance with certain factors outside of her control. Still, she decided one more time to try again.  At 64 years old, Diana has succeeded.  

Whatever you are going through, whether a dream, a goal, or something unexpectedly traumatic, remember Diana Nyad's three messages.

1.  We should never, ever give up.
2.  You are never too old to chase your dream.
3.  It looks like a solitary sport, but it's a team. 

Life isn't meant to be lived in solitude.  Sometimes we need to be carried along the way, and that's more than okay.  





16 comments:

  1. Love the thought to being carried when needed. Congrats to you and all brave women who are unafraid to try again until success comes their way.

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    1. Thank you, Suzanne! I'm so happy to know you.
      xoxo

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  2. Thank you so much for your inspiring story. What a great blog post.

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    1. Connie, thank you for your words of affirmation.
      xoxo

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  3. Never, never give up is on a singlet I wear, and I think we get better with age, I do lack in the team and less solitude department. Funny though I have been feeling with my blog work the need to collaborate more, build my tribe. Then you put into such beautiful words all that I am thinking. Great job Nancy...tribal buddy.

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  4. Karen, what is a singlet? I'm embarrassed to ask : ) Thank you again for your lovely comments! I see you doing a fantastic job collaborating, and I'm si proud to be tribal buddies. You are constantly inspiring me <3

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    1. So proud to be tribal buddies. Si will work, too, because it is "Yes" in Spanish.

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  5. Love this!! Thanks, Nancy, for sharing this about yourself! Love how Diana has spoken to so many of us!!

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    1. Thank you so much, Libbi! Love your name, The Best Decade, and your blog with your beautiful art. We've got to at least meet for coffee <3

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  6. I heard that, as Diana Nyad was getting close to shore, she looked around for the TV cameras because she wanted to have the first words spoken once she completed her swim to be, "Never give up!" That particular sentiment was so important to her and her success, she wanted it to be the headline. Hooray for Diana and hooray for you, Nancy, for sticking with your dreams through tough times, getting back in the water to cross your own finish line. Great job!

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    1. Thank you, Mo! Love your analogy "getting back in the water to cross your own finish line." It seems like just about everything we do requires perseverance, doesn't it? You are such an encourager.

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  7. Nancy, YOUR story is inspiring. I'm so glad it sits with Diana Nyad's. Your licensure and Nyad's swim are impressive, though not as impressive as the process to get to the goal or dream. I'm thinking that fruition is the process. So happy for you.

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  8. Susan, you are so right. The process was/is invaluable to me. I was just sharing with a friend today that I was so focused, because I had to be. Goals are invaluable too. I learned a lot more than test taking information, that's for sure. Thank you for your message!!! Now to keep focused on some new goals : )

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  9. Love this!!!

    So proud of you and the example of never giving up you have shown me!

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    1. Thank you, Dancing Girl! I love and appreciate you so much!
      xoxo!

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